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the birth of self•lationship.

self•lationship is an idea born to me around 3am on a random April night during mandatory Covid-19 quarantine. I have been single for quite some time now and unfortunately I sometimes associate that with negative thoughts. The good thing is, I’m in therapy so trust me I’ve been doing the work to get rid of those negative thoughts and my negative perception towards relationships. Thanks to therapy I have been doing some much needed reflection. In doing so, self•lationship was developed.

We hear so much about how to work on relationships outside of ourselves but what about the one within? Self-care propaganda has stormed the battlefields of Instagram influencers all over the place. But what exactly does it all mean? Is self-care just spa days, mani, pedi, massages, and facials?

No, it is not. Self-care asks one to look all the way within to see what self truly needs. What will make you feel good not only in the moment but can also contribute to more feeling good later on down the line. That my friends, is the true definition of self-care.

self•lationship is that a direct result from my own methods of personal care merged with what I’ve observed from others. self•lationship is the true essence of one’s relationship with themselves.

3am pandemic thoughts.


Self-lationship is a self-love blog dedicated to uplifting the spirits of single Black Women. This is a blog centered around the love you deserve to give yourself throughout your life, no matter who is or isn’t around. Whether you desire to be in a relationship one day, or not, this a space for you to heal, be real and chill. Cheers to finding a place of solitude, self-care and serenity!


8 responses to “introducing self•lationship”

  1. Esther Romain Avatar
    Esther Romain

    Amazing detailed info. Thanks for sharing


    1. Sophonie Milord Avatar
      Sophonie Milord

      Thank you for reading and for your comment.


  2. Yolanda Avatar

    Love the concept! Can’t wait for more content.❤


    1. Sophonie Milord Avatar
      Sophonie Milord

      Thank you so much!


  3. EyeDoctorKorley Avatar

    Wonderful message. Thank you for sharing such valuable content. ❤️


    1. Just Sophonie Avatar

      Thanks so much for reading and for your comment!!


  4. Sam Avatar

    Self needs therapy, journaling, youtube, netflix, & God. Still working on relationship with myself to figure out what makes me happy. Looking forward to content and taking this journey with you and hoping to learn some things along the way.


    1. Just Sophonie Avatar

      Aww I love that and believe you will certainly find all of that peace wrapped in one if you keep doing the work & learning yourself. Thank you for reading 🙂


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